Humans are complicated, hard to understand, yet very interesting creatures. Humans are unable to survive alone, and thus live in groups, just as wolves live in packs – surviving by mutual reliance.

Because of long term living in communities, socially, humans tend to detest people who stand out too much, and in return do not want to stand out, to avoid being rejected by the society and thus, losing his or her own identity. They become followers, following the social trends: if one of them could not keep up, he/she is labeled as outdated.

Recently the society has developed into a more self-centric one, with each individual exploiting each other to achieve his/her own private goals. Or maybe, it is like this all along. It is not easy to identify whether any of the actions taken by an individual is considered as pure hearted, based on free will or with separate intentions.

Though I don’t believe humans conduct actions entirely motiveless – there must be some sort of motive, some sort of intention. It’s just the level of intentions are different. For instance, an individual might assist on another individual to develop trust, or to develop a friendly relationship, or to expect a similar treatment in return, or to avoid being labeled as cold hearted, or to blend into the community etc. Even a reason such as “wanting to see him/her smile” is an intention itself.

Helping a person when the person request for help and helping a person without the person asking are different. If the person asks for help and you aid him/her, it’s considered as “doing a favor”. But when helping a person when the person do not ask for help, there might be a few possibilities happening: the person do not wished to be helped, or the person do not expect help.

Since there are people who exploits human emotions by offering what appeared to be unconditional help but actually bearing ill intentions, it is normal for people who are receiving “unconditional” help to be extra cautious, bearing doubts on the true intentions of the helper. In turn, people who gives help based on pure intentions think twice before assisting to avoid misunderstanding.

On the other hand, there are also exploits which involve requesting help with ill intentions which again, in turn develops cautiousness in free-will helpers and further reduces the number of them.

With all these factors reaching an equilibrium, the society has become cold – filled with paranoia. Helping a person, when being requested or not, is not a social norm, and people avoid taking actions simply because other people are not.

In rare cases, individuals who are sick of the society, isolates himself, because he no longer understands himself. Is he no different from the society – elegant on the outside, rotten on the inside? He wished to know, yet is afraid to know. He doesn’t want people to think who he is not, yet doing things that is not him, yet wanting to know what exactly is himself.

He is confused.

If you’re reading this, I believe you’re confused too.